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Has your girlfriend broken up with you lately? Are you trying to change her mind to get back with her? Well, in that case don’t worry. We are here to help you. Before you try convincing her, you need to understand a few things.

Who broke up with who?

Based on who broke up with whom, the approach will vary. Which means different breakup instances need different approaches. So did she break up with you or is it you who dumped her?

If she put a full stop to your relationship then and now you just things to back to normal or as they were before your breakup then well, you can proceed to step 2.

But, if the case is another way around (You dumped her) and now you finally realized that you committed a big mistake by breaking up with her and want to get back then you need to be patient. Explain why you broke up with her. Talk with each other and see if things can be resolved so that you two can get back.

Find out the reason behind she breaking up with you

Our first and foremost thing is to ensure that whatever it is you have done, that made her end things with you. She might have already told you about his and you did nothing. Maybe because of that, she might have broken up with you.

Now that you understood the reason behind your breakup, it is now time to follow these 6 rules to get back with your ex-girlfriend.

Rule no 1-- Maintain some distance

Do not call them continuously or text them again and again for asking them to take you back. So maintain some distance and do not call your ex at least for two to three good weeks. Usually breakups can be emotionally draining and of course, you definitely going to need some time away from everyone. First, calm down, and then think whether you want to get back with her or not.

In addition, moving away from your ex-girlfriend after your breakup will let things cool down a bit and be less emotionally drained. It also gives you time to evaluate how you actually feel about your ex and the whole breakup thing and what you want and should do further.

Rule no 2-- Focus on yourself
During this time, take the time to focus on yourself. Enjoy some time being single and then leisurely figure out what exactly you want out of your relationship. Evaluate who you exactly are and what do you want.

Try some new hobbies. Hit the gym, hangout out with your old friends. And try to do everything that you couldn’t do while you were in a relationship. This whole thing will let you re-establish your self-esteem and get that super life back in this step.

I understand that it is a tough time for you and cannot do all this. But trust me, unless you make yourself free from that emotional thing, you cannot make unbiased decisions for yourself.

Rule no 3-- Reason behind your breakup

Figure out why your ex-girlfriend broke up with you in the first place before trying anything to get back with her. You might feel that there is no good, solid reason for your breakup and she simply changed. But in most of the cases, there will be a reason for the breakup. If you are not sure then think and answer the following questions.

-- Did she say anything while breaking up with you that you changed or she changed? Anything like that sort of.

-- Were there any signs or changes in your ex-girlfriend’s behavior a few days before your breakup?

-- Did she say why isn’t able to love you like as she did before?

If you already figured it out then analyze the reason whether it is a stupid one or really it is bothering your ex. Unless you make some real, good efforts, she ain’t coming back bro.

Rule no 4-- Try to get in contact with her

During your time off, if you still want to get back with your ex-girlfriend then yes, it’s time to get back in touch. But don’t start with heavy and emotional text messages, just keep the conversation light and easy.

Texting her saying “I want to get back with you” or “We need to talk” will be too heavy and also massaging her like that gives her wrong impression that you are just too desperate to get back with her. So just move with her as you did when you first started dating her. Give her some space.

Start with simple “Hi” or “How are you doing” message. The lighter you keep the conversation tone, the better chances you will have to get back with her.

Rule no 5-- Keep it casual

Seeing her for the first after your breakup can be really overwhelming and also there will be too many thoughts running through your mind. But remember, you need to stay cool. Whether it has been 2 weeks or 2 months, you have to keep the conversation light and casual. Do not interrogate her with your questions whether she’s seeing anyone lately or anything like that.

Meet her for a coffee or lunch just like as you are meeting your old friend. Anything more than needed will look like you are needy and desperate to get back with her. Also, think will give her an impression that you are looking for a booty call. So be that guy who she fell in love in the first place and not that guy who she broke up with.

Rule no 6-- Have once in a while casual meetings

Even after the first meetup, if you still want to get back with her then continue having occasional meetings. Know her feelings and ask what she wants. If she still needs some time to think about you and your relationship then give her the time she needs. Do not try to rush things.

And when finally ask her if she wants to get back with you. Tell her that how you have been working on things that went wrong during you two were together. You have to show her that you are a matured person. These things take time. So be patient and keep trying. She will come around.