Cybersex- pros and cons from Excellence's blog

Probably each of us likes sometimes “ naughty” news when whole body starts getting goosebumps and the heart beats faster. Thanks to overwhelming presence of the Internet and mobile phones, we can heat things up always and everywhere. Men love when a woman starts somewhat spicier exchange of messages, not to mention releasing the reins of fantasy in the preparation for response. With more experience couples do not have a problem with it, erotic messages could be a nice diversification and intensification when waiting for the afternoon, evening or night. But what if we just met that person? And at what point we can safely start that “naughty” chat?

When you spot or even get to know a man on the Internet, usually appears some hesitation. Uploaded a photo where he looks like a million dollars? Should you notice how handsome he is and just go over the agenda? Or maybe you should write how stricken you and feel the urge to put your legs on the contours of his muscular shoulders? And what to do when you send your photos and he replied that your lips are made for love? Think of it as something too bold, or ask if he wants to find out in reality? There is no universal rule, however, you may want to ask yourself the question about your expectations.

When a man after two days of exchanging messages starts bringing the conversation to erotic tracks, we have to start wondering. Of course, all depends on our temperament. If we are looking for a blazing romance then we can pull on this subject. It will pleasantly speed up your heartbeat and the man interest will get a boost. Pulling this type of talk has also another advantage. Namely, knowing the man's fantasies we can, although incidentally, find out what sits in him. If already in the third message he writes that wants to tie you down and use a whip - we may feel little uneasy about it.

This is not always a sign of deviation (sometimes this is the result of trying to educate themselves by reading, for example, very popular “50 Shades of Grey", however, you may want to think if you really want to be in something like this. If, on the other hand, we are both speaking on same waves, you can give it a try.

Situation is slightly different when we are looking for a permanent stability in the relationship. Starting such talks too early can give us the message that the relationship will be based only on sex. If a man too early starts such a conversation and pulls them on, despite the fact that a woman is trying to change the subject, it shows his priorities. Yes, we like the macho type but, in same time, we want a partner in every aspect of life, not just in sex. It is well worth before starting such a talks to check whether you have common themes and how it looks having a conversation on variety of topics.

The physicality with time will fade but everyday life remains . On the other hand, if a calls and talks lasts for few weeks maybe even months or already there have been meetings in reality making us ready for more, we can start themselves. Just ordinary "I dreamed about you last night" or bolder "but I feel like craving for you". Certainly this will be appreciated and you may fill will like “teenager in love”.

Speaking about cybersex you might want to pay attention to one more thing. Sometimes a woman wants to start writing spicy news, however, there is no response on the part of man. Very often we are waiting for the messages that stimulate the imagination. It is not true that only men a lot of think about sex. Women, however, are less likely to admit. So what if our friend avoids the topic? There can be several reasons. The most popular is ordinary fear.

The man is afraid that he will be received as a cheap version of Casanova, which only craves for sex. Often also the guys are not as up-and-coming for which they want to be known. What do you do? Simply, start the subject yourself. If the call will be held and lasted – certainly both sides will feel satisfied. If, however, the topic of conversation will be changed by him – you can start thinking about what is the cause. Low libido, a shaming mystery, maybe disturbing fetish? It is certainly a warning signal.

In the 21st century, cybersex is not taboo. Let's send erotic message, blush at work when reading stealthy – off the eyes of our Boss – emails about what the man wants us to do, but let's be cautious. Women like sex, women like spicy conversations, but everything in moderation. So let's explore the question what we have as priorities. Let us ask ourselves if we are ready and not be afraid to write something that will surely heat up the atmosphere.